Of course, this week, with the DOMA and same-sex marriage cases hitting the supreme court, no one is neutral. Even those that are "trying" to be neutral, seem to be making a few snide comments about the thoughts of the "other" side. I will grant, some people are Switzerland. Kudos to them. Or maybe we've had enough Switzerlands, and it's time to stand up and say what you really think, no matter how unpopular it might be with your friends.
So let me start with this: I support same-sex marriage. I would be the worst person to fight against same-sex marriage because I'm horrible at marriage. Of course, my current husband would probably disagree... but my ex-husband? Yeah, he'll be the first to tell you that I'm not great at being married.
I had a friend tell me once that everyone should get a "starter marriage" that doesn't count to figure out what it is that they really want. I got that, why shouldn't everyone? And since I clearly don't have any of the answers when it comes to marriage, I'm willing to bet that no one else does either. Personally, I don't care who gets married. Man-woman, man-man, woman-woman, heck, if you want to dive into the world of poly-unions, go for it. Let me repeat... I do not care. So long as everyone is treated fairly and given legal protection, we should not waste time or energy telling each other who we can or cannot sleep with at night.
By wasting time and energy on this, we are, in effect telling people who gets their money after they die, who they can incur debt with, pay taxes with, who can visit them in the hospital when they are sad and need comfort and who can make decisions in their stead, ignoring the fact that someone else may know their wishes. None of these things affect me, you or anyone else and will go a long way to making more people happy.
I read today something to the effect of: "So your religion tells you same-sex marriage is wrong? Fortunately our Constitution tells us that we don't make laws based on your religion." And I had one of those moments where I just wanted to yell out loud "YES!". You can believe what you want. God? Awesome. All-powerful God? Mystical, all-knowing elephant? Cool. Same-sex marriage, multiple marriage, eternal virginity? All of those things are awesome... and completely separate from the US Government and its laws.
My studies of the Constitution thus far have been pretty pointless, but I have learned (drumroll and trumpets): The Establishment Clause. Essentially, the government will not and cannot make laws supporting religion or giving moneys to religious institutions. Doesn't matter which one. Switzerland. This is a time when Switzerland is acceptable. The government needs to be a little more neutral and let people make the decisions they want to make.